Will you marry me...?

While in deep thoughts about marriage
and people's thoughts on gay marriage,
I thought of writing this,
so that people will understand more about marriage itself.

Long ago, I had a discussion about gay marriage with someone online.
Her thoughts were that gays should not be exiled from the society,
but they should NOT be allowed to get married
because it is not allowed in any religion at all.

People often say that marriage is between a man and a woman,
and if it is altered to between a man and a man or a woman and a woman,
then it will ruin the institution of marriage,
but let's see how much have we ruined the institution of marriage.

Well, we have allowed the marriage between people of different statuses.
We HAVE allowed interracial marriage.
Surprisingly, polyandry has been receiving a lot of criticism,
and child marriage is banned in most of the countries in the world.

Oh dear,
the institution of marriage is ruined!

 

 

Shouldn't marriage be about love despite who you marry?
Shouldn't marriage be about the commitment between two adults?
Even if you were to judge,
the person's values and morals are the ones to be judged,
not the person's skin colour, gender, wealth and what not!

It's really unfair to oppose marriage between two lovers just because of their body,
especially since everyone has different beliefs all over the world
And they have to be tied down just because of YOUR beliefs,
and lack of discovery over the holy book.

Now let's get back to the "institution of marriage".
Usually what is supported for this idea of marriage between a man and a woman,
is "Adam and Eve, NOT Adam and Steve",,
quite funny, actually, but ridiculous as well.

So now I am left to wonder,
how does Gay marriage ruin the institution of marriage
if the ones married are couples who are deep in love,
and not the ones who marry just for 72 days?

From my personal belief,
based on the history of the legalizing of marriage between different statuses,
and interracial marriage,
it IS possible for gay marriage to be legalized in the future.

 

 

People just need to have more knowledge about each others' differences. 

I "smoked"

Recently, since I've went into a new environment - university,
I've been joking to my old friends that I started smoking. (why not?)
Now of course, no one will be happy when they hear that,
but I've never expected to hear of the following replies.

"I don't want to talk to you anymore"
or "I can't be close with you anymore".
Now, I'm left wondering for a few days now,
are these the thoughts projected from their parents?

I would've thought the first reply would have been "why?"
or warning me that it is bad for my health,
but to be disowned by close friends because of smoking,
without even the little knowledge of how people fall into it, that could have made matters worse for a smoker.

The person could have had peer pressure,
or he was made to smoke by bullies.
His parents might have been the source of the influence
or even because of depression.

Of course, I'm not saying that smoking is the right thing to do,
but disowning a friend is equivalent to disowning a family member.
Not to mention that to get over smoking really takes strong will,
they have to go through withdrawal phase and what not.

Now, seriously, when a friend opens up to you,
and tells you these things,
it's usually the case that they trust that you will be by their sides,
even though they have issues and they might want you to help them in stopping themselves from smoking as well.

To make matters worse,
once you've rejected their honesty in opening up,
it's as if you're telling them not be honest at all,
and that might make them walk down into the pathway of destruction.

I'm not a fan of being a second-hand smoker, well, who is?
And I don't really like it when people smoke in front of me,
since it causes me to feel like choking and scream for help for bystanders,
but I'm not really one to judge others for their actions.

It's their life, it's not like they are forcing me to smoke along with them.
As long as my expression of feeling choked gets through,
I'm totally fine with it.
Or of course, IF it is possible, I could just leave the room and move to a non-smoking area.

Hey, I'm given a brain to control my actions,
the least I could do is to use it at times of needs.
Unlike SOME people who complain
and are too lazy to move their buttocks.

An additional information about me is that
contrary to the headline,
I've never smoked
and never will.

Coming Out

Tears of joy rolled down my cheeks,
as my friends tried to calm me down.
"It's Okay," they said,
looking at my most vulnerable state.

It's as though a heavy weight has just been lifted.
and the word "freedom" is starting to exist in my world.
That "hope" I've always had deep in me,
is starting to glow brighter and brighter
.

That time, we were discussing about the subliminal messages behind Disney cartoons,
A friend of mine, Vivi, later on suggested that Disney should make a movie with gay/lesbian characters.
A while later, the British girl, Helen who I caught a glimpse of back then, looked into space and said,
"you know what, I've never had a gay friend."

At that instant, I took my chance and mustered all my courage to tell them.
I looked right into her eyes, hoping that I won't entangle my tongue and said,
"I'm Gay."
Her reaction was really funny, actually, she nearly shouted it out in surprise,
not knowing that the boy who sat right beside her was actually Gay. 

The last time I came out to my Arab friends
was one amazing night.
because,
I came out to my close friends officially.

I have always tried to hint my friends that I like guys,
but I have never actually came out to them.
They were Muslims, and so,
that seemed a little impossible for them to accept me.

I love my friends,
they are like treasure and are very precious to me.
To lose any one of them
is the last thing I'll ever want.  

That night, while looking through pictures of a celebrity who announced that he is gay,
my friend "cried" "Nooooooo, well, you can have him now" or something similar to that.
I looked at her, straight into her eyes, shocked and speechless.
In my mind, I have always thought that they believed I was joking.

I questioned her again,
and they seemed totally fine with it.

The supporting words I heard from them moved my heart
and made me cry.
I was so happy, so happy...
I can't even explain those feeling in words.

"You don't have to care about other people's opinions,",
"I really respect you for being brave and being yourself",
"That's who you are"
"We don't judge people"

These people, who I call friends,
are finally a part of my life entirely.
Friends?
I guess it's more like family now.

The words "I really respect you for being brave and being yourself", still echoes in my mind <3
and days later, they actually stood up for me when I was being targeted for being Gay
even though it was just a joke. I finally feel secure and happy.

Dear parents and future parents,
what was/is the reason of your child's existence?
Was/Is it so that they can take care of you in the future?
Or was/is it so that you can let them experience what you are having?

Life is hard to define,
as well as Love.

One person's Love cannot be explained by mere words.
The lack of vocabulary and the feelings inside of you,
will never be understood by one another,
because they can only try to understand through your words.

Love, just like fear,
one other person cannot understand entirely.
At times, it can lead to mockery,
but it takes one's courage to stand up towards it.

Dear parents and future parents,
would you like to see your children in pain?
The feeling of not being able to love their beloved,
or the feeling of not being able to be accepted in one's community.

Those feelings can often lead to depression
and social anxiety,
the fear of being exiled by the people around them,
teachers, friends and family alike.

All they want is to be loved and love,
is it so hard to ask for such treasure?
A simple treasure where you can find between you and your beloved,
they want to experience it as well.

Gay,
Lesbian,
Straight,
Bisexual?

What are those terms that humans created?
It is just an easy way to classify between groups of humans.
In one word, it is just love.
And love, is everything, it should not need classifications.

Dear parents, young and old?
Would you kick your children out of home for loving someone else?
Would you teach them to hate one another just because of loving what you can't accept?
Would you still love them because they are not what you expected to be?

They should have the ability to process information themselves, because this is THEIR life.

Life is short,
and one should experience life by their own thoughts,
not negative thoughts that you have implemented,
without searching through the entire information.

Electric Chairs,
Hormone treatments,
Psychology?
All these just because you think it is not what God wanted, nor what nature desires?

Your children are crying in pain, dear parents!
Would you want the same to happen to you if you were to wear their shoes for once?
It is your responsibility to love them unconditionally,
UNCONDITIONALLY.

Your child needs you more than ever if ever that time comes,
please listen patiently and try to understand his/her feelings.
Because...

They might only have their family left to depend on...